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I Want to Want to (Have Sex)
November 24, 2019
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If any of the above hit home for you, you may be struggling with wanting to desire your partner but being unable to tap into the desire itself.
In order to increase openness of intimacy and receptivity to touch from your partner, there are a few things to keep in mind. Some of which you can work on independently for personal and relational growth and some may require the intervention of a trained therapist. |
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Challenge your internal fear response. Fear is often the catalyst for psychological barriers to intimacy. Psychologically resistance to desire can be present for a number of reasons. I.e. Fear of rejection (pain), Fear of ridicule (shame), Fear of the unknowns or the future. Think about whether the fears that create distance between you and your partner(s) are real or perceived. If real, is there anything that you can do to impact your situation for the better? If not, than we must practice acceptance for what we do not have the ability to change. If perceived, try changing the way you think about something. Focus on what you know (the objective facts) rather than what you imagine could be (often negative in nature and evoking uncomfortable emotions).
Our bodies are made to experience the energy of intimacy and the gravity of attachment .
- Stephanie P. Bathurst
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Heal and reprocess any history of physical or sexual trauma with a trained professional. It is critical that you heal from the suffering of past pain and diffuse your subconscious defense mechanisms. These mechanisms are ingrained survivalist tendencies but they will ALWAYS prioritize self-protection higher than relational connection
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Resources to try
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Dr. Stephanie P. Bathurst, PH.D. lcmft
Board Certified Clinical Sexologist
Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist
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